The Gray Divorce Podcast: Episode 70 From Chemist to Coach: Helping Men Navigate Divorce with James Traub

In this episode, I’m joined by James Traub, CDC Certified Divorce Coach® and one of the few men in a largely female-dominated field. James brings a rare combination of analytical precision (from his former career as a chemist) and emotional intelligence to his coaching practice, helping individuals—especially men—move through divorce with confidence and integrity.

From Chemistry to Coaching 

James shares how his previous career as an analytical chemist informs his coaching approach. With a mindset geared toward process optimization and consistency, James now helps his clients avoid the common pitfalls of the “divorce industrial complex.”

Divorce Coaching vs. Therapy 

We unpack the differences between divorce coaching and therapy, especially when it comes to tactical, future-focused support. James explains how his coaching helps clients take meaningful steps each week, and how it complements—but doesn’t replace—emotional healing.

The Emotional Toll on Men 

We explore how men often internalize shame, silence their pain, and avoid seeking help. James opens up about the unique challenges men face—including the loss of identity, difficulty expressing vulnerability, and post-divorce isolation.

Communication & Relationship Repair 

For couples at the edge of separation, James offers practical frameworks for initiating difficult conversations. He outlines how early intervention and curiosity—not ultimatums—can sometimes reverse course and even save a relationship.

Divorce Later in Life 

We discuss the rise of gray divorce and why mid-to-late life separations can feel both simpler and more emotionally fraught. James stresses the importance of avoiding unnecessary legal conflict and focusing on preserving wealth and well-being in the retirement years.

About James Traub 

James Traub is a CDC Certified Divorce Coach® with a mission to guide clients toward their best possible divorce. With a background in analytical chemistry and a passion for men’s emotional wellness, James supports clients at every stage—from relationship repair to post-divorce recovery. He specializes in helping men navigate the emotional, financial, and relational complexities of divorce with clarity and compassion.

Resources

Website: www.bestpossibledivorce.com 

Social Media: Connect with James on LinkedIn