The Gray Divorce Podcast: Episode 68 Strengthening Your Mindset for Growth with Nicole Comis

In this episode, I’m joined by Nicole Comis, certified life and mindset coach, to explore how life after divorce—especially in mid-to-late life—can become a turning point for growth and renewal. Nicole shares her personal journey from a high-income role in the mortgage industry to a more purpose-driven path, and how she now helps others navigate their own transformations after divorce.

Rewriting the Script After Divorce 

Nicole opens up about her experience of shifting from a successful career to one that felt more aligned with her values. Like many who divorce later in life, she faced deep questions about identity, purpose, and the future. Her work now centers on helping others rewrite the mental scripts that no longer serve them.

Understanding Mindset Coaching 

Nicole defines mindset as the programming we develop early in life—often unconsciously. These patterns shape how we respond to divorce, loss, and change. She explains how that programming can be “re-coded” through coaching tools that include neurolinguistic programming, timeline therapy, and hypnotherapy.

Breaking Through Fear and Autopilot 

We discuss how fear and failure often trace back to childhood dynamics or long-term relationship patterns. Nicole shares strategies she uses to help clients identify their limiting beliefs and move past them. For caregivers, professionals, and high achievers, getting off autopilot and living with intention can be the key to fulfillment.

Habits That Align with the Life You Want 

Drawing inspiration from Atomic Habits and the science of positive psychology, Nicole emphasizes the power of small, aligned actions over rigid goal setting. She encourages clients to focus on three pillars—career, health, and relationships—while defining success on their own terms.

Why Divorce Can Be a Doorway to Fulfillment 

Nicole reminds us that divorce is not just an end—it’s an invitation to rediscover what truly matters. By working through pain and limiting patterns, it’s possible to create a post-divorce life that feels not only whole, but joyful.

About Nicole Comis 

Nicole Comis is a certified life and mindset coach with a specialty in helping individuals navigate transitions like gray divorce. She holds credentials from the International Coach Federation and is a master practitioner in neurolinguistic programming, timeline therapy, and hypnotherapy. Her warm, compassionate approach empowers clients to break old patterns and embrace new possibilities.

Resources

🌐 Website: www.nicolecomis.com 
📱 Social Media: Connect with Nicole on LinkedIn, Facebook, and Instagram